Bucket list

笨mummy has been thinking a lot recently about life after coming back from a recent trip from Japan. She reached Singapore on 12 Nov 15 midnight, a day before Friday the 13^th (i.e. 13 Nov 15). Yes, that fateful day where Paris was attacked. She has been asking the question as to whether she living her life fully and doing what she loves. Nobody can predict when onr would leave this world as anything can happen, an accident, a heart attack, etc, life is so fragile at times.

She decided to list down the bucket list of things that she wanted to do / accomplish before her time is up as a reminder that she should live her live to the fullness and not regret when she, one day, looks back at her own life.

A. Visit and see more parts of the world

Oh yes, this sounds like a big goal. As a child, 笨mummy never get the chance to travel, not even to Malaysia, as her parents are busy and careful with money. But she never once envy people who travel as travel is never part of her life as you never experience it and you would not miss it.

As she started earning money, visiting places with friends, exploring the internet, it seems there are so much out there in this world that she wants to take a look. For example, experiencing farm stay, touching snow, autumn leaves, visiting theme parks, etc.

She will try her best to visit and experience something new and different once a year if possible.

B. Spend more time with her child

The feeling of guilt is always there when笨mummy has to work and her little one is left with the grandparents. Though笨mummy is rest assured that the grandparents are great caretaker of the little one and adore him as much as her, she still wants to be there for her little one to accompany him when he hits milestones, learns and experience new things, and exploring this exciting world around him.

Parents’ time with the child is very limited and the child will eventually grow up and experience the world on his own without the parents. 笨mummy always cherish the time with her little one on weekend and focuses her full attention to him, that means no handphone / computer usage when the child is around (she would only use them when he is taking afternoon nap or when he is out with daddy at the playground). She tried her best to bring him along to social functions as long as the places allow children of his age.  

She hopes that she keeps this up and constantly reminding herself to cherish the time with the little one, and do not reject the little one’s requests for hugs and / or playtime.

C. Being more patient with her parents

As a mummy now, 笨mummy can understand the care and love that parents have for their child, especially her own parents who care for her. As her parents are getting older, they need more care and concern from her.

Sometimes笨mummy would lose her temper at her parents (though she regrets doing so after she calm down) especially at times when she is busy. 笨mummy hopes that she can be more patient with her parents and not lose her temper at them. She also wish that she can spend more time with them.

D. Stop having excuse and start moving

笨mummy had spent a few months learning basic Japanese few years back, and she does not have time to keep up with the learning and now they are all “returned” to the teacher. It is a language that笨mummy wants so much to learn, but the lack of time to practice make it very hard to retain what she learnt. However from her recent trip, she met a lady from China, living in Japan, who know how to speak four languages – Chinese, English, Japanese and Korean. She is totally amused by the lady’s determination to learn that many languages.

As long as someone has the determination to succeed in something, he would always make time for it. So笨mummy has decided to stop giving herself excuses and start moving to complete the following:

·        Learning Japanese and pass Japanese Language Proficiency Test

·        Learning clay art

·        Complete her Wilton cake decoration level 3 and 4 courses

Let’s get working on them, 笨mummy!!